What Anxiety Isn't
By definition, Anxiety is the worst.
I have been through a period of my life when the only time I didn't feel somewhat anxious was when I was flat-lined by medication; seemingly healed, but really just distracted from the reality of my hormones going haywire.
Anxiety can be all-consuming, physically and mentally. Each one of us has experienced the symptoms of anxiety to a certain extent. *flash back to my friend having a panic attack when she realized she had to parallel park her car on a hill...anxiety is reaaallll*
Everyone knows what anxiety is, but why don't we talk about what it isn't?
Anxiety isn't more powerful than you. What's truly amazing is that we have the ability to control our anxiety. We can literally say no to it. When our hearts start to pound, chests become tight, palms start sweating or thoughts start downward spiraling--we can stop and choose to move in a different direction. When we are aware that anxiety is creeping up, the simple practice of stopping, recognizing the situation and what it is that is making us feel anxious, and choosing to take a deep breath can either help us confidently conquer the hurdle in front of us, move past a not-worth-your-anxiety moment, or pivot us in a different direction (literally choosing to let the negative thought(s) in our minds pass--aware of the anxiety in front of us, but not choosing to engage with it).
Anxiety is not forever. As I've mentioned before, I used to think that anxiety was something I was stuck with for the rest of my life. Let me be the first to tell you that this is not true!! A few big lifestyle changes can literally change your endocrine system and help it function more effectively--keeping your hormone levels balanced and your anxiety symptoms at bay. By eating a diet full of nutrients, exercising in a way that honors but challenges your body and spending time practicing self-love and gratitude, your life can be free from the burden of constant anxiety. *I suggest reading WomanCode by Alisa Vitti for the ultimate advice on how to regulate your hormones using food and wellness practices*
Anxiety is not your boyfriend. Although external factors definitely impact our day-to-day experiences, you are the ultimate deciding factor on if your life is going to be awesome or not. We cannot blame other people or our circumstances for unhappiness or anxiety. We are in charge of our own happiness and wellness. Your boyfriend can't cure you and neither can your mom. We can be who we want to be, do what we want to do and live the lives that we deserve if we pursue wellness and treat our bodies the way that they need to be treated in order to perform optimally.
I could probably ramble for a long time about what anxiety isn't, because I believe that I'm worthy of living without its heaviness in my life and that you are too. Let's learn more about ourselves and take advantage of our individual lives that are so uniquely different from one another. Living without constant anxiety means living with more joy. Let's be individuals who believe in this and pursue life in a way that proves it.